So I have a new year's resolution.
It is that I will not trust a word either of my parents tell me without proof or corroburation from the source.
My brother has not chosen his friend to watch over my niece should something happen to him. He trusts that family will make the decision that will be best for Raya at whatever stage her life is in should anything happen to them.
He assumes that means that between his MIL, my parents and me and Tim we will decide what will happen to Raya together. There was never a question of anything other than family. Never.
I am so relieved that I can't even be pissed at my folks.