So I am adding my comments to Mommy wants Vodka's post here because it made me think. She was talking about her two (and a quarter) kids and how different they are.
My brother and I are very different.
Always have been.
My brother was homecoming king. He ran with the "rich and the famous" of our groups in our little town. He was a model. Cuter than a teenage boy should be and an even handsomer man.
He was in to heavy metal (still is). Played football. Liked to go out drinking. Messed around a lot with a lot of girls.
Basically my polar opposite.
I was into poetry. I was on the school literary magazine. I tried beer in 6th grade, didn't like it and didn't drink again until my senior year.
I had one boyfriend during high school and two best friends and a few ancillary friends but nothing close to the huge entourage that followed my brother.
And he has a temper. A quick and fast temper. He and my father had huge amazing storms of temper that collided and were awesome in the their power.
I was the peace keeper. I was the responsible one. I was the one that my parent's trusted to do as they asked.
I was grounded once during high school and it was because of my brother. (feel free to comment here Mike) He wouldn't return a rental movie and I was afraid my parents would be mad if it was late so he told me to take the car myself if I was so worried. He was laying on the couch with his girlfriend and wanted me gone. So my older cousin went with me and my permit and we returned the movie and came straight home.
Straight home into a shit storm. A shit storm so epic it traveled to Georgia from New Jersey and involved my aunts, uncles and my grandmother.
All over a rental movie.
Anyway my point is that we are as different as day and night but we still have the same experiences (different perspectives on them maybe, but the same) and we still have the same foundation. We have the same parents.
We are both a lot like both of our parents. Some of the good, some of the bad and some that is just ours.
And I hope that the same is true of my kids. I do think that birth order matters but I also think that children are born with personalities. They have a lot of what they will ultimately be right from the beginning.
And I love that my brother and I are who we are. And while I wish we were closer - and not just in physical distance - I am proud of who we both turned out to be.
Well I obviously turned out better but who's comparing?
And I see the differences in my children. And I hope that they take only my strengths and that they turn into these wonderful terrific amazing people. But then I remember that they are born with it. They are already amazing and terrific people. And I am pretty sure that there isn't much they can do to make me change my opinion.
Except maybe, become teenagers.